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Birthmother Lisa Testimonial:

You see, sometimes we have to face choices we're not ready for, that's why I called A Loving Choice Adoption. There was someone with understanding waiting for me to call.

When you have questions, when you have fears, when you have doubts, when you have love in your heart, when you have no family or friends to talk to, when your finances are gone, when you see no hope, when you want to make your own adult decision--you should call them.

I wasn't planning on getting pregnant and then when I knew I was for sure, I wasn't planning on keeping it. I wanted to pick life. I knew I had three major choices: abortion, adoption, or parenting. I wanted to pick the family and keep in touch, in case the baby needed me. But when I called, I was scared and I didn't know what I was going to do. After I talked to A Loving Choice, I knew everything would be okay no matter what I decided to do. I was able to pick out parents for my child without a lawyer or without fear of making the wrong decision. I was able to meet them, too.

I had heard of children being adopted and wanting to find their biological parents, so it was important to me that I didn't have to be a stranger. The adoptive parents didn't have to be strangers either. I was able to feel comfortable with the decision I made for my baby.

I thought it would be hard to give my daughter to the new parents at the hospital, but she will always be my daughter by blood and I can keep in touch with her as long as I want to. The best part is that I got to pick out her parents. I know in my heart because they couldn't have children of their own they'll take care of her 100 times better than I ever could.

So believe me when I tell you, you can still provide the best life for your child. Choose your own decision, choose the adoptive parents, and choose A Loving Choice ~ they were great!

Lisa


Mary's Adoption Story:

Early morning on April 8th, 2009, I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.  Nine months before that day I didn't even know I was pregnant.  I already had four children, I was working two jobs, and was stressed out enough in life.  Then the Department of Children and Families came into my life.  They tried to tell me that I was a bad mother and took my kids away from me.  I fought and hoped everyday that I would get them back.  I did everything they told me to do.  Well, I am also bipolar, so in order for me to be put on medicine for that, a pregnancy test was at hand.  When it came back positive I was shocked and scared.  The state gave me the choice to either kill the uborn child or give him or her to strangers.  I couldn't even think of killing something and didn't want to lose my four children forever, so I agreed to adoption.  My mother helped me call around and ask all the questions.

Then we found Phyllis from A Loving Choice.  She helped us understand the rights and responsibilities that everyone involved needed to know.  She told me to take my time and pick the family or person of standards that I felt compatible enough with to raise my own flesh and blood.  She sent profiles of people wanting to adopt children.  It made me cry knowing that so many great people just wanted the chance to have something I already had.  When I found out it was a boy, it narrowed down the search for parents a little.

I finally chose a wonderful couple named Joe and Leah with a beautiful dog named Shawny.  We started talking on the phone on a regular basis.  I wanted them to know everything about my family and the unborn child that would soon be theirs.  Time started flying by, and we all became close friends.  I got to thining about it, and asked them to name the baby.  Then I decided they should also be in the delivery room when the baby came . . . to experience the birth of their child.  They so happily agreed.

As my due date approached, their plans were set.  They were so scared of missing out on the birth, but amazingly it all came together.  They flew to Florida and my mother and I met them for lunch the day before we were scheduled to check into the hospital.  I can't explain it, but it felt like I had known them forever.

The next day I showed up to the hospital and was in labor at 5 pm.  By 11 pm they couldn't keep track of my contractions.  Just as everyone was trying to get comfy for the night, things really started moving fast.  A few pushes and he was here.  He had a little distress during delivery and had to be taken to NICU.  It scared me and all I wanted was to see the baby, and Joe made sure that I did.  It made me feel so much better hearing him argue with the nurse for my feelings.  It just made me feel great about choosing them.

I wrote a note for the baby and gave it to them.  We all agreed that they would decide when the note should be given to him.  I feel so blessed because they are giving him a life that I could only dream of for him.  They send me a letter update with pictures every time I ask, and it always makes me smile.

To end my story, I would also like to add that I think of little Nicholas every day.  I tell everyone about him.  I copied his pictures to my phone so I can see him anytime I want to.

I love all my children dearly, and still sometimes question my decision, but I am always reassured every time I thnk about what awesome parents Joe and Leah are.  I know that they will raise Nicholas to be smart and open-minded, so that one day he might meet me and understand all of it . . . when the time is right.

Everyone said that it was a brave and heart filled choice to make, and I do know that it has changed me forever.  It opened up a part of my heart that now understands and believes in giving.  I gave a piece of myself to a wonderful and deserving couple.  I smile at myself every day knowing that Nicholas is alive, strong, and a handsome piece of me . . . in a loving family and home of my dreams.

 Mary 


Birthmother Melissa Testimonial:

Hi Everybody,

My name is Melissa or "Missy". This is my story of how I placed my son for adoption to a very loving family that can do so much more for him than I can. I had a baby boy named Mathew. He was 8 lbs. 4 oz. when he was born. I loved him very much, he was so cute and adorable, and then when I least expected it, DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services) stepped in. They said that I had to pick a family member or a friend for him to go to because I did not have the means to properly care for him myself. I picked my sister and she was very happy to take him. At first I was happy that he was with her, but then I found out that she was letting him sleep on the couch and in the swing unattended. So I decided that I had to change that. And I also felt that a child should have two parents, not just one. I talked with my attorney about adoption and she said "Melissa, if it is coming from your heart then you should do it". Well, it was coming from my heart, so I decided to do it. That is when I went to the phone book and called A Loving Choice and talked with Phyllis. I could not believe how helpful and nice she was. She answered all my questions. I gave her all the information concerning Mathew, and she helped me select a wonderful family. I talked with them and they were so very happy. They had waited a very long time trying to start their family. Then we went to court and I was scared, but I know deep down that Mathew will always be safe and that he will be loved just as much as I would want to love him myself.

Sincerely,

Melissa aka "Missy" 


Birthmother Mary's Testimonial:

I guess I'll start from the beginning.  When I first found out I was pregnant, I was so excited and then overwhelmed at the same time.  Especially at my age, which is 40.

I have already gone through several major surgeries, and still have more to go through.  I was on strong medication for pain and still had to work, construction, which I love.  I have an 18 year old son and a 16 year old daughter.

So I stopped all meds and eventually had to stop working for the safety of my unborn child.

I brought my children up as a single mother, and I know now how hard it was on my kids as they got older not having a two parent home.  Trying to be mother and father to my two children was hard, but worth it to me in my heart.  But in a lot of ways, their lives were incomplete.

To repeat that again with lack of money and in my condition would be overwhelming.  I wanted better for my baby boy . . a two parent home, lots of family around, and to be safe, with security.

My parents are both gone.  I have no family members to speak of.  So I went to my friend Linda to have someone to talk to . . and in doing so, I realized that adoption was my only choice.  Not an Adoption Center, but to seek out a loving family for my baby.  So we started the search.  We talked with several agencies, and I wasn't comfortable with them.  They were too busy or talking at me not to me.  So I would just hang up.  Then we found A Loving Choice and I felt something.  A woman named Phyllis answered the phone.  She talked to me, no pressure.  She told me about herself, and how the company worked.  She put me at ease.  She was the angel I needed.

She then sent me lots of families to pick and choose from with their pictures and backgrounds.  It really felt like I was on the right path with A Loving Choice.  You need to be comfortable with your choice to be able to make the right decision for your baby.  No matter what the situation or how old you are.

I never thought I would have a child out in the world without me.  It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through.  But I wanted more for him, for my baby.

Thanks to Phyllis from A Loving Choice, I found a couple that I knew my baby would be loved and cared for and safe.  That is what a parent wants for their child in any situation.  I knew I made the right choice for both the family and my son.  They send me updates and pictures because they know the love I will always have for him.  Through A Loving Choice, I made the right choice.

Good Luck to All,

Mary      


 

Birthmother Desiray Testimonial:

Dear Phyllis,

Thank you so much for helping me through one of my hardest times. I don't know if you believe in the Lord, but if you do thank you for trusting in him. Because someone who helps another without ever seeing their face has to have some kind of faith. I know that may sound strange because we have never even seen each other.

Whenever I needed to talk, you were there without a sweat.

Again, thank you.

Desiray