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Two wonderful and informative adoption related books.

Adoption Insurance to help recover from failed adoptions.

How to locate an Adoption Attorney in any state.

Creating your Family Profile and Dear Birthmother letter, with

samples to view.

Sample Profile 1

Sample Profile 2

Sample Profile 3

A Loving Choice is pleased to recommend this book to all prospective adoptive parents.

Compiled by Thomas and Rhoda Bontrager from Northern Indiana, For This Child

We Prayed shares the experiences of those who traveled from the disappoint-

ment of childlessness to the joy of parenthood by adoption. They accepted adoption, not as a second-best solution, but as God's plan for forming their family. The stories show God working out details of seemingly impossible situations. Adoption is pictured as a venture of faith ~ faith in God who designs families and forms them by different means.

For This Child We Prayed was written to bless adoptive families, to provide useful resources for those considering adoption, and to help readers better understand what adoption is about.

For This Child We Prayed can be ordered from Christian Light Publications

Another wonderful book by Rhoda Bontrager.

This is an unusual, beautifully illustrated book for preschool and primary children on the blessings of being an adopted child. It emphasizes the

values of parental love, Christian family living, and adoption into God's family.

God Gives Me A Family can be ordered from Christian Light Publications

Adoption Insurance is now being offered! If you live in CA, FL, HI, LA, NJ, NY,

Pa, or TX (the adoption itself can take place in any state), you can now purchase insurance and get reimbursed for out of pocket expenses if your adoption fails.

Go to Adoption Assurance to check it out.

If you need to locate an Adoption Attorney, we recommend an attorney from the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys.

Creating your Family Profile

Many families starting down the adoption path have questions on how to put a family profile together. There is no right or wrong way to do it, and probably

the best advice we can give is to simply let your heart be your guide. A birth-

mother needs to know who you are, what your priorities are, and how you live

life day to day. A 'Dear Birthmother' letter that truly comes from your heart

will easily move the birthmother that is meant for you.

A family profile is a 'Dear Birthmother' letter, and pictures of you, your home,

your family, animals . . . whatever you choose to show. You should also remember that it needs to be easy to mail. It will usually go out in a package with 6-8 other family profiles. Another important thing to remember is ~ do not include your

last names or the specific town where you live. The degree of openness in an adoption is something that you and your birthmother can decide upon after having met and and gotten to know one another. Simply state in your profile that you

live in Central Indiana, or the East Coast, without being too specific.

Most birthmothers tend to like the more active pictures. The family barbecues,

birthday parties, vacations, church gatherings, that show you relaxing and enjoy-

ing yourselves. Make and keep a master copy with the original pictures. That way you can simply run down to the local copy shop and have more printed when you

need them.

Below are a few sample profiles for you to review. Be creative. Family profiles are

great snapshots in time, that you can keep and share forever. Mine was always

a work in progress with the latest and best pictures immediately going into the profile.

Profile sample 1: Gina and Sal ~ Gina and Sal are now expecting twins!