A Few Words From Phyllis

It would seem that something which means poverty, disorder and chaos every single day should be avoided entirely, but the desire to beget children is a natural urge.


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If you are just starting to research adoption, then I'll start with the very basics. Within this country, there are simply two ways to go about adoption. You can work with your state government and become a licensed foster parent, or you can search for a birthmother on your own and do a private adoption. Which path you choose is a very personal decision, but I can give you some guidelines to help you make your choice.

Your state Foster Parenting system consists of children that have been removed from their biological homes for some reason. These are already born children under the age of 18. These children may or may not become available for adoption. If their biological parents correct the problems caused them to be removed from their home initially, they may return home to their biological parents.

Most, but not all, adoption placements done through private domestic adoption are newborn babies. Generally birthparents select an adoptive couple to parent their child before the baby is born, and they then voluntarily terminate their parental rights after the baby is born.

Unfortunately, one of the biggest factors in which path you choose may very well be a financial factor.

Adopting a child through the foster parent process will not cost you. In fact, most states will even offer you a small monetary subsidy to help you care for the child as long as that child is still a ward of the state. The biggest problem you face in a foster child adoption is that you may have a child in your home for an extended time, maybe even years, only to see that child eventually return to their biological parents.

However, Private Adoption does cost. How much it will cost you can vary quite a bit. Current statistics show that the average cost of a private adoption is somewhere between $18,000 to $25,000. I think this is a fairly accurate number. The biggest problem in private adoption is actually locating a birth family that wants you to parent their child.

Adoption, no matter how you go about it, is not an easy path. It is an emotional road with many ups and downs. You need to work with people and organizations that have experienced this emotion first hand and are very sensitive to you and your birth family.

Using the services of A Loving Choice is a great way to get yourselves out there to be seen by birth families that are searching for the perfect couple to parent their child. We are adoptive parents ourselves, and we know that in every adoption, someone celebrates . . . and someone grieves . . . that's just the way it is. We are here to help everyone that is part of your adoption through all these very emotional events.